I talk a lot about comfort zones with my clients. Why? Because the women I work with can’t live out their dreams from within their comfort zone.
They want to consciously create their life, they want to be the drivers of their own destiny, they want to live boldly, and bravely. They aren’t interested in following the road that has been paved out before them.
I always say it’s a good sign when you start to feel uncomfortable. Because it’s a sign that you are on the right track. It’s confirmation that yes, you are moving out of your comfort zone, and that is exactly where you need to be for all the magic to happen.
Most people live within the confines of their comfort zone. The best thing you can do for yourself is regularly move beyond it. This is the best way to lasting personal mastery and to realise the true potential of your human endowments.
– Robin Sharma
The great thing about comfort zones? They are malleable. They shift and change with your experiences, and with time. They expand more and more as you experience being uncomfortable. Imagine a giant elastic band that has no limit to how far it can be stretched.
Every time you step out of your comfort zone, no matter how small the step, you expand your elastic band. With time, that new space now actually feels comfortable. It no longer scares you. You have now created a whole new comfort zone. And so it goes, stretching and growing as you do.
We must always be a little bit scared if we are going to live our dreams. That is to say, pushing just beyond our comfort zone so that we are always stretching just a little bit more. In life, it’s in the uncomfortable stretch that we grow. Many people “know” what their next move is, but they don’t do it. They spend time thinking about it. They wonder. They try to figure out if they do it, what will happen? And all the while, they stay still and stay stuck.
Happiness in life is about stepping into necessary uncertainty and not needing to know the outcome – because if we are honest, we rarely, if ever, know. All of life is a giant leap of faith. And what holds us back is the obsessive and debilitating need for certainty of outcome ahead of time. But that is not how life works. Life requires faith, boldness and courage to step into the unknown with the knowing that my heart and intuition are always guiding me and know the way. As I step out of the way, a way will be made.”
– Mastin Kipp
It’s all about shifting our mindset around fear. Because fear is the biggest trigger that comes up for us when we are uncomfortable and feel out of our depth.
Fear isn’t something to be labelled as “bad”. It’s not something to blindly charge through without acknowledging it’s presence. It’s not something to be pushed down inside you and ignored. Fearlessness doesn’t exist, it’s a falsehood. So why bother striving for it? Fear is your messenger, and it has A LOT to tell you. It’s another good sign, along with feeling uncomfortable, that you are moving out of your comfort zone and into your growth zone.
There is one four letter word that, I believe, is capable of being the single greatest barrier holding each of us back from truly making our mark in this life: FEAR. Regardless of person, prestige or position, fear can be present. But we must all overcome it in order to succeed, to make our ideas a reality. In some cases, we have to conquer it again and again.
The fear of failure has killed more dreams than failure itself. The most successful people in the world will tell you that their greatest life lessons were found in the ashes of their failure. So if failure leads to learning, which then leads to success, you’d think that the concept of failure would be embraced in our culture, instead of rejected and feared. And yet instead, the fear of failure stops so many people from stepping out in the first place.
Fear locks us up, silences our dreams and holds us back from ever taking the risks necessary to truly succeed.
– Daniel Flynn
My view is if we start to view fear as a GOOD thing, as something that is to be expected, and even celebrated, during our growth phases, then we automatically liberate ourselves from some of the debilitating effects of fear.
Fear causes people to draw back from situations, it brings on mediocrity, it dulls creativity, it sets one up to be a loser in life.
– Fran Tarkenton
You see fear is only trouble when it stops you dead in your tracks. When it has such a hold over you that you feel you cant move forward. Has you feeling truly stuck. But if you welcome the fear, understand what it is there to teach you, or to think about, or to look into, and then continue to move forward, then fear becomes a positive part of the journey, something that we can move through with grace, not something to be avoided.
The only limits on your life are those that you set yourself. When you dare to get out of your circle of comfort and explore the unknown, you start to liberate your true human potential. . . When you push beyond your limits, you unlock mental and physical reserves that you never thought you had.
– Robin Sharma
JOURNAL PROMPTS TO HELP YOU GET UNCOMFORTABLE:
- What is keeping you playing safe in your comfort zone right now?
- What is your biggest fear of stepping outside it?
- What is that fear here to tell you?
- What small step/s can you make to move forward?
- What will be possible for you when you step into your growth zone?
Share your thoughts with me below, I would love to hear from you!
“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.”
– Brian Tracy
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