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good and bad values

Values are one of the most powerful areas I explore with my coaching clients.

Values exist, whether you recognise them or not.

Your values are so inherent in who you are, what you believe in, what’s important to you, what you prioritise, how you behave. They are really a blueprint of YOU!

Most people think they know what their values are, we all do right? But if I were to ask you to name them, describe them to me, and tell me why these values are so important to you – would you be able to do that?

It’s such an empowering process to dig deep and discover what your most truest values are and why.

Good values are:

  1. reality based
  2. socially constructive, and
  3. immediate and controllable.

Bad values are:

  1. superstitious
  2. socially destructive, and
  3. not immediate or controllable.


You’ll notice that good healthy values are achieved internally. Something like creativity or humility can be experience right now. You simply have to orient your mind in a certain way to experience it. These values are immediate and controllable and engage you with the world as it is, rather than how you wish it were.

Bad values are generally reliant on external events – flying in a private jet, being told you’re right all the time, owning a house in the Bahamas. Bad values, while sometimes fun or pleasurable lie outside of your control and often require socially destructive or superstitious means to achieve.

Contrary to popular belief, values are NOT morals.

Values are about prioritisation. What are the values that you prioritise above everything else, and therefore influence your decision making more than anything else?


This, in a nutshell is what “self improvement” is really about: prioritising better values, choosing better things to give a fuck about.

– Mark Manson

When the things that you do and the way you behave match your values, life is usually good – things flow, you’re satisfied and content. But when these don’t align with your personal values, that’s when things feel . . . wrong. We can feel upset, stuck or aggravated – and sometimes now know why. This can be a real source of unhappiness.

This is why making a conscious effort to identify your values is SO important.

I will be running a Values Masterclass at the Spring Yoga & Wellness Retreat on the Mornington Peninsula later this month.

This Values Masterclass is designed to dive deep into yourself and what you hold dear. In this intimate coaching workshop you will discover your own personal values, define what they mean to you, and learn how you can honour them in your life. Gain the clarity, knowledge and practical inspiration to create your best life yet! Leave feeling motivated into purposeful action after the event is over and experience long-lasting positive change in your life.

To find out more head HERE.

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“Julia has a true gift.  Her coaching was really great. It helped me to re-focus. I’ve managed to shift into a better flow for my life. I have created a balance between “work” and life. I have experienced the benefit of her coaching first hand and recommend it to anyone that needs guidance and help in this way.”

Kate Christensen

“Before coaching with Julia, I felt like I was stuck and in a rut. I knew something had to change. I wanted to feel calm, free and enjoy my life more! That change has now come thanks to Julia. Thank you for opening my eyes to the world again and for giving me the tools I needed. I have learnt so much about myself. I feel happier, calmer, more confident and organised. Julia is a brilliant, supportive, insightful, joyous and positive coach! I won’t hesitate to work with her again.”

Kara White