The road to discovering your passion is never a straight one.
There are pot holes, winding bends, sharp corners, delays and even u-turns.
Winding up living on purpose, expressing your passions and loving the sh*t out of what you do is no accident. It is rooted in self discovery and personal development. If you’re like most people, it takes dedication, work and sometimes what might feel like going backwards.
Adults are always asking kids what they want to be when they grow up because they are looking for ideas.
– Paula Poundstone
I know for myself that it has been a long and winding road to stand where I am today. When people ask me “So how did you get into life coaching?” I always laugh, and say “Well, how long have you got?”. Because truly, it was the most winding of paths possible! There was no linear line connecting me with my purpose, I arrived here by a natural evolution, through experiencing many twists and turns.
But I wouldn’t change one step of it. Each chapter (particularly the really hard ones) truly taught me more about myself, and helped me decide on my future direction. Bit by bit, each experience has lead me directly to where I am today.
It’s only with the benefit of hindsight that I can look back and see how it all links together, and how one thing lead me to the next. In the moment of course, it certainly felt the opposite of that! I had many of the “Holy crap what am I doing with me life?” moments. You NEED those moments. To be consciously aware of how you’re feeling, how you’re living out your life, and where you want to head next – these questions are absolutely necessary to accompany you on the journey to uncovering your passion.
There is no right answer to the question ‘what should i do with my life?’ Forget ‘should’ altogether. The next step – and thats all it is – is pursuing something, it matters little what, that seems fun or rewarding. Don’t be in a rush to jump into a full time long term commitment. take time to find something that calls to you . . . The calling will, in turn, lead you to something else.
– Gretchen Rubin
I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. I never used to think that way though, it sounded to me like some hippy concept that people used to comfort themselves with when life was going off track. That belief also had a lot to do with the fact that I had NO trust in the universe, NO faith that I was already on my divine path.
I was a self-confessed control freak, I believed strongly in the adage, “if it’s meant to be, it’s up to me!”. I believed that everything in my life should work in linear patterns, and that moving from A to B to the next goal was what my life was about. But I’ve now come to realise life is a continuous journey of change, different directions and unexpected circumstances. I still love creating visions and setting goals, but it all comes now from a place of ease, of trust, of flow. I now make room for the unexpected.
Be clear about your goal but be flexible about the process of achieving it.
– Brian Tracy
We don’t have control over certain events in our lives, but we do have control over how to respond to them. We have the choice to learn and grow from experiences or to ignore them and continue down the same unfulfilling path. Awareness is the key. Without it, you can’t evolve, you can’t grow, you can’t expand into the person you are meant to be.
The foundation for finding your passion is awareness. So as long as you are being curious, open and perceptive to yourself, to your experiences and to your reactions, you will have a constant stream of feedback, of information, of sign posts that will keep you heading in the right direction.
Some people feel overwhelmed by the question ‘What’s your passion?’ It seems so large and unanswerable that they feel paralysed. A useful clue to finding a passion to pursue, whether for work or play, is to ‘do what you do.’ What you enjoyed doing as a ten-year-old, or choose to do on a free Saturday afternoon, is a strong indication of your passion. ‘Do what you do’ is helpful because it points you to examining your behaviour rather than your self-conception and therefore may be a clearer guide to your preferences.
– Gretchen Rubin
So let’s get you started on your own winding path towards discovering your passion.
I’ve created a list of questions below to kick start the process for you. So grab your favourite pen and journal, get comfy and enjoy what is uncovered during this process.
DISCOVERING YOUR UNIQUE PASSION:
- What do you love doing?
- What are you good at? What could you be the best at?
- What makes you happy?
- What excites you?
- What makes you feel accomplished and good about yourself?
- What are you most proud of having accomplished in your life? Can you repeat this or further develop it?
- What do you enjoy sharing of experiencing with people?
Be open and curious as to what comes up for you. Keep an open mind and an open heart throughout this process. Release any judgement of your answers, or pre-conceived notions of what you “should” be passionate about. Sometimes the answers are what you least expected.
Let me know how you found the exercise, what did you learn about yourself? What insights did you gain? What light bulb moments did you have?
Leave me a comment below!
The least strained and most natural ways of the soul are the most beautiful; the best occupations are the least forced.
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