The new year. It brings energy, excitement, a sense of possibility. But it can also bring doubt, confusion and frustration as you try and navigate your pathway into the new year.
It can be a fresh start, or ground hog day. And it all depends on your perspective, and how self aware you are on your biggest limitations and blocks.
We’re all aiming for our own version of self-actualisation, that’s Psychologist speak for moving from surviving to thriving. And that’s a pretty great place to be isn’t it? There are a lot of people simply struggling to make ends meet, to put food on the table, and to keep a roof over their families head. So first off, be very grateful that you are already far beyond many if you are on the path of self actualisation.
But know this, studies have shown that the moment that people have enough money to survive, any more money on top of that won’t actually change their level of happiness. How crazy is that? In our western culture we’re SO focused on (because we’re told to) earning more, buying a bigger house, a better car, going on that overseas trip, updating our wardrobe – but statistically speaking, none of those things will increase your happiness.
So instead of chasing the dollars, you will be much more fulfilled turning your focus inwards to improve your inner life, not your outer one.
It’s totally liberating don’t you think?
If money is to enhance your happiness, it must be used to support aspects of life that themselves bring happiness to you. Money. It’s a good servant but a bad master.
Studies show that peoples basic psychological needs include the need to feel secure, to feel good at what they do, to be loved, to feel connected to others, and to have a strong sense of control.”
– Gretchen Rubin
But even when you ‘have everything’, it can still leave you feeling empty on the inside. I know this too well as you’ve probably already read in my story.
My clients are successful in their lives; they are smart, they have great jobs, they have wonderful relationships and good health, yet they still seek more. In my experience it’s because they are disconnected from themselves and their true purpose.
You can tick off goals, climb the corporate ladder, and busy yourself to the point of exhaustion – but if you don’t know WHY you are doing those things, it will leave you feeling unfulfilled.
Because without a sense of purpose, without a deep knowing of who you are, and what you were put on this earth to do – well it can all feel very mundane, and you may find yourself asking “What’s the point?”. When you move out of survival mode, and into a place of comfort – the first thing you seek is a sense of fulfilment, of meaning, of belonging, and of deep inner happiness.
Prosperity allows us to turn our attention to more transcendent matters – to yearn for lives not just of material comfort but of meaning, balance, and joy.
We are complex beings, with multiple, often contradictory desires, needs and wants. It can be hard to navigate our minds all alone, it’s a very confusing place to be sometimes.
We want stillness, stability, peace – but also stimulation, challenges, excitement. We want simplicity without boredom. And of course, we don’t want to be simple.
So think back to last year, and the year before that. What where your intentions? What did you want to achieve or change? Did you get there?
If not, what have your blocks been? Why do you think your dreams were out of reach? Historically, blocks don’t change all that much – you run up against the same challenges time and time again. Have you found that?
Because it’s not about time, money, or resources. The number one block is always, and will always be ourselves. YOU are the biggest barrier to your own happiness. And that’s why it’s so difficult to make significant changes alone.
Are you starting to see now that the real limitation is YOU?
Your procrastination. Your ego. Your lethargy. Your poor food/drink choices. Your lack of self compassion. Your bad habits. The knowledge you neglect. The creativity that’s not expressed. Not knowing WHO you really are.
This can be hard to hear. As it’s a lot easier and convenient to blame external circumstances; time, money, resources, other people etc for why you don’t have what we want. But really, none of those things matter if your mindset is in check.
Want to do it differently this year?
That’s where I come in. . . Know you don’t have to do it alone.
I’ll be your coach, your accountability partner, your cheerleader when you forget your vision. I will challenge you, support you, and love you fiercely. I will ensure you get to where you want to go, no exceptions.
Self-Knowledge is the stepping stone to self-mastery.
– Robin Sharma
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You are supported beyond what you could possibly fathom. The only things in the way of allowing yourself to feel this support is the belief that you are not.
– Rebecca Campbell.
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